I have been thinking about this a lot lately…. am I a Dream Builders or a Dream Crusher?
In life we are surrounded by way more people who are Dream Crushers than Dream Builders.
It starts as soon as we are born and our parents/adults did not know why we were crying and they would shush us in their attempt to quiet us. Not knowing for sure why we were crying they would do what it took to get us to stop, to take care of us. As we grew older, adults are always telling little children “NO” because its all part of the learning process, again it is done out of love, caring, good intentions and not to be a dream crusher, but it can turn into that.
Now we become adults and we are used to being told no or you can’t do that or all the things we learned over the years “for our good” and we hardly notice anymore. Maybe we have even stopped dreaming because our dreams have been crushed so often.
I remember when I was a little girl and I told my dad I wanted to be a newscaster, he immediately told me I could never do that because I have a slight lisp to my S’s. He had the best intentions in the world.. he did not want my dreams to be crushed, so I should just stop thinking about it now. Unintentionally he was crushing my dreams.
A Dream Builder is someone who would respond to your dreams with excitement, caring, and questions. Someone who supports you and your desire to dream. They want for you what you want and desire.
A Dream Crusher is someone who intentionally or not, tells you all the reason why they think you cannot accomplish what you want. They might be someone who just does not want someone to do something better than them, they might be someone who is just a negative or pessimistic person, or that someone who “thinks” they are just being REAL and helping you, either way they crush your spirit and crush your dreams.
I choose to change my attitude and become a Dream Builder and not a Dream Crusher