Many people find that when they are in the process of changing their unhealthy habits, they start to exhibit self-sabotaging behaviors. This has a lot to do with the challenge of accepting a new body.
Have you ever had one of these thoughts?
•“Everyone says that I look so different but I still see the ‘fat’ me in the mirror”
•“I hope people don’t comment on my weight loss. It makes me feel so uncomfortable”
•“I know that I’m healthier, but I still don’t like how I look.”
We can easily get tangled up in, and hold onto, these negative self-judgments to the point where they dictate what we do and we end up stuck.
So, what can we do to stop getting pushed around? I follow these 3 steps:
1. Notice what my mind is telling me.
2. Acknowledge that it’s happening.
3. Do what matters.
Notice we are not trying to change these negative self-judgments. We are simply noticing them, separating from them, and then doing what matters. Our negative thoughts do not have to control our actions!
– By Nick Frye, LCPC, NCC, DCC